What’s More Important?

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Hi, this is David DeFord.

What’s More Important?

Too often we put our tasks above our people.

Do you find yourself continuing to work when a team member enters your work area? Do you glance up occasionally hoping to scare them away with your scowl?

What’s really more important?

A year from now the importance of that task will probably pale compared to your relationship with that team member.

Choose leading over doing.

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Why work with David?
David has groomed leaders for more than 40 years. As a leader, trainer, author, speaker, and coach, David has worked with leaders in all 50 states and in several provinces of Canada.

He is a new member of the John Maxwell Team with the full backing of an incredible organization. He is also a certified Fred Pryor Seminar trainer.

David has a deep passion for helping.

Here are a few recent comments written by some of those with whom David has worked:

Toledo, OH
The best leadership course I’ve taken in 41 years.

Toledo, OH
Excellent communication of the topic. Easy to understand, related to my situation, wonderful presenter.

Fort Wayne
David’s style is amazing!

Ann Arbor, MI
David was great and went the extra mile to be personable and genuine. He was soooo awesome and informative.

Edmonton, Alberta
David made for a very good two days of easy, fun, and interesting learning. Lisa

Des Moines, Iowa
I expected dull and drab. I was “Wow’ed” with the information. It was wonderful! Loni

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Sincerely,

David DeFord

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Learn Away Your Stress

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Hi, this is David DeFord.

In my first leadership role many years ago, my stress level went through the roof. I had no idea how hard it could be to deal with negativity, lack of cooperation, personal problems, counseling, and disciplining. Wow!

After one major misstep, my boss, Roger, pulled me in and said that I may not be leadership material because I obviously couldn’t handle the stress. He told me I needed to learn away my stress.

He explained that stress grows when we feel trapped and when we find ourselves in situations we don’t know how to handle. Learn how to handle them and the stress level reduces. He then gave me three book titles he thought I should read.

Roger also said that I would learn many valuable leadership methods from him and from every leader I followed throughout my career. But he went on to say that if I limited my understanding of leadership to what I observed from my leaders, I would greatly limit my possibilities. He said to learn from the world’s best.

What a difference his advice made for me!

I’ve read hundreds of books, attended classes, seminars, and conferences. I’ve participated in many mastermind groups. Each of these activities contributed so much to my leadership effectiveness.

But above all, they helped me learn away my stress.

Thank you, Roger.

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We have a couple of seats left in our Fruitful Leaders Mastermind Group.

When does it start?
The week of July 13

When does registration close?
June 30

What Does It Cost?
Just $22.09 for the book, 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John C. Maxwell

To register, just e-mail David at david@daviddeford.com.

Why work with David?
David has groomed leaders for more than 40 years. As a leader, trainer, author, speaker, and coach, David has worked with leaders in all 50 states and in several provinces of Canada.

He is a new member of the John Maxwell Team with the full backing of an incredible organization. He is also a certified Fred Pryor Seminar trainer.

David has a deep passion for helping.

Here are a few recent comments written by some of those with whom David has worked:

Toledo, OH
The best leadership course I’ve taken in 41 years.

Toledo, OH
Excellent communication of the topic. Easy to understand, related to my situation, wonderful presenter.

Fort Wayne
David’s style is amazing!

Ann Arbor, MI
David was great and went the extra mile to be personable and genuine. He was soooo awesome and informative.

Edmonton, Alberta
David made for a very good two days of easy, fun, and interesting learning. Lisa

Des Moines, Iowa
I expected dull and drab. I was “Wow’ed” with the information. It was wonderful! Loni

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Money Back Guarantee
If after two mastermind sessions you don’t feel it’s for you, I’ll refund your registration fee. Which is actually $0.

Let’s Do This
If you are an emerging leader and want a jump start, or if you have led for a while and want to step it up and grow your competence, confidence, and credibility, Let’s Do This.

When does it start?
The week of July 13

When does registration close?
June 30

What Does It Cost?
Just $22.09 for the book, 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John C. Maxwell

To register, just e-mail David at david@daviddeford.com.

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Sincerely,

David DeFord

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Fruitful Leader Mastermind Groups

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Hi, this is David DeFord.

Most leaders grow their competence, confidence, and credibility over decades. They learn and grow through making and correcting mistakes, also called “Hard Knocks.”

Their primary sources of learning to lead are:

  • The hard knocks learning of their bosses
  • Their own hard knocks

The most effective leaders accelerate their growth by expanding their learning circles by:

  • Studying leadership books
  • Consulting with a coach or mentor
  • Conferring with other leaders

Why not combine all three with our Fruitful Leader Guided Mastermind Group?

By joining us you will:

  • Learn from the world’s best known leadership expert, John Maxwell
  • Enjoy specific, tailored coaching from David DeFord, a leading trainer, speaker, and author
  • Collaborate and network with other growing leaders

Here’s how it will work:

  • We will form two teams of ten people each- a Monday 7 a.m. Central Time team; and a Tuesday 7 p.m. Central Time team.
  • Each team member will study two chapters of the bestselling book, Leadership Gold by John Maxwell.
  • During our weekly, hour-long call, David will spend the first few minutes introducing the content, then the team will discuss how they can apply the principles.
  • At the call’s conclusion, we’ll each send the group an e-mail commitment for the week.
  • During the week, team members may collaborate on ideas and issues.
  • We’ll work together for ten weeks.

When does it start?
The week of July 13

When does registration close?
June 30

What Does It Cost?
Just $22.09 for the book, 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John C. Maxwell

To register, just e-mail David at david@daviddeford.com.

Why work with David?

David has groomed leaders for more than 40 years. As a leader, trainer, author, speaker, and coach, David has worked with leaders in all 50 states and in several provinces of Canada.

He is a new member of the John Maxwell Team with the full backing of an incredible organization. He is also a certified Fred Pryor Seminar trainer.

David has a deep passion for helping.

Here are a few recent comments written by some of those with whom David has worked:

Toledo, OH
The best leadership course I’ve taken in 41 years.

Toledo, OH
Excellent communication of the topic. Easy to understand, related to my situation, wonderful presenter.

Fort Wayne
David’s style is amazing!

Ann Arbor, MI
David was great and went the extra mile to be personable and genuine. He was soooo awesome and informative.

Edmonton, Alberta
David made for a very good two days of easy, fun, and interesting learning. Lisa

Des Moines, Iowa
I expected dull and drab. I was “Wow’ed” with the information. It was wonderful! Loni

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Money Back Guarantee
If after two mastermind sessions you don’t feel it’s for you, I’ll refund your registration fee.

Let’s Do This
If you are an emerging leader and want a jump start, or if you have led for a while and want to step it up and grow your competence, confidence, and credibility, Let’s Do This.

When does it start?
The week of July 13

When does registration close?
June 30

What Does It Cost?
Just $22.09 for the book, 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John C. Maxwell

To register, just e-mail David at david@daviddeford.com.

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Sincerely,

David DeFord

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Do Your Associates Recharge or Drain Your Batteries?

Today’s Article: Do Your Associates Recharge or Drain Your Batteries?

by David DeFord

At the end of a conversation, do you feel energized or exhausted? Did your time with
the person recharge or drain your batteries?

I have observed that I feel pumped up when I spend time with some, and deflated with others.

We can make choices. We can consciously choose to spend more time with energy depositors and less time with withdrawers.

Also, some gatherings contribute to our energy. Participating in church, service clubs, networking and mastermind groups will usually deposit into your account.

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Sincerely,

David DeFord

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Cheering Others to Victory

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Cheering Others to Victory

by David DeFord

Sports teams love to play before their home crowds.
Except for very rare exceptions, every professional
and college team wins more games at home than they
win on the road.

The energy of the partisan crowd creates this home-
field advantage.

Athletic teams consider their home fans as
contributing members of their teams. The energetic
roar of the encouraging home crowd helps their athletes
win. Performance improves when exposed to the
collective energy of thousands of well-wishers.

In basketball, they call the home crowd “the sixth man.”

As a former athlete, I know of the powerful influence
of cheering fans. My confidence rose when I received
strength from cheering family and friends.

The influence of parents shouting for their sons and
daughters at soccer, baseball, and basketball games
cannot be measured, but its evidence is apparent.

In my marathon running days, I loved to hear the shouts
of encouragement when I didn’t know if I could muster
the strength finish the race. Their signs read, “Meet you
at the finish line” and “You can do it.” They helped me
raise my sights upward from my flagging energy stores
to my eventual triumphal crossing of the finish line.

Some people encourage us to victory. Others send us
messages of doubt. The pessimists seem to want us to
stay in the status quo as if in our success we would leave
them behind.

What influence do you have on your family and friends?
Do you encourage their growth and development? Do
they gain confidence in your presence?

You probably do not realize the power of your influence
in helping elevate those around you. You have the power
to energize them in their life quests. You can help boost
their confidence. You can help them raise their sights to
higher living.

As you cheer them on, you can help them press past
fatigue and discouragement. Your words of “You can
do it” give them energy for their journeys to improvement.

Focus your conversations toward positive reinforce-
ment. If a friend or family member needs some
redirecting, do it in an encouraging and confidence-
building way. Let them know of your faith in them.

You can become “the sixth man” to your friends striving
toward personal triumphs. You can boost their
performance enough to help them achieve the victories
they seek.

You can provide the home-field advantage.

I strive to be your “sixth man.” Go get ‘em!

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Related Quotes

Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less. John C. Maxwell

A good objective of leadership is to help those who are
doing poorly to do well and to help those who are doing
well to do even better. Jim Rohn

Respect the man, and he will do the more. James Howell

Confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence.
Michael O’Brien

Caring comes from being able to put yourself in the
position of the other person. If you cannot imagine,
‘This might happen to me,’ you are able to say to
yourself with indifference, ‘Who cares?’
Eleanor Roosevelt

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Sincerely,

David DeFord

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Pre-live the Tough Conversations

Pre-live Tough Conversations

by David DeFord

When you must discuss an issue with your employer, what you say and how you say it make a difference. 

Pre-live the Conversation

Before you visit with your boss, plan the conversation from beginning to end.

First, brainstorm several options for your opening statement. Write them down, eliminate the obvious losers, and make your top choice. 

Second, think about every possible objection you could hear from your boss. List them. 

Third, take each possible objection, and brainstorm your responses–shoot for a dozen answers per objection. Analyze each possible response, and select the most appropriate one.

Pre-living the conversation will give you better odds of getting the outcome you seek. Rather than depending on coming up with good responses to objections in the moment, you prepare, ponder, and carefully choose your responses.

You also will feel more confidence and poise in the conversation because you feel prepared. Confidence helps you make your case. If you don’t seem convinced, how can you convince your boss.

Find Reasons Your Boss Would Want to Help

Express the benefits to your organization or to your boss of accepting your proposal. Explain why he or she should work with you on your request.

Align your request with your boss’s values: budget compliance, sales and revenue, quality product, customer service, or even family.

Identify Your Ideal and Acceptable Outcomes

Before you talk with your boss, determine your ideal outcome. What would be the best result you can expect?

Then, identify your lowest acceptable outcome. 

Keep the conversation between these two outcomes.

Expect to Succeed

Speaking of confidence, in any negotiation, expect to get what you’re requesting. You truly get what you expect. 

Magic Phrases

As you pre-live, plan to use these two phrases.

The first phrase will help you lead the conversation, “I need your help.” This phrase sets the stage for cooperation. It shows humility and earnest concern. Your boss will more likely tune his or her ear to your request.

The second phrase will help you meet any objection, “I see it differently.” I find this statement more effective than, “I disagree.” You aren’t making them wrong. You will generate less defensiveness. You’re just stating your point of view.

Equipped with these effective communication techniques, you will more likely reach your ideal outcome or an acceptable compromise.

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Sincerely,

David DeFord

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Getting the Holdouts to Buy In

Thank you so much for your kind comments and thoughtful questions.

I’m really getting excited about getting our guided mastermind group going. I’m only inviting people who I feel want to take their leadership to the next level.

I’m assembling a dozen emerging and experienced leaders who want to grow their leadership abilities intentionally. Rather than suffering for decades to grow our effectiveness, we can create and nurture it together.

We’ll meet by phone one hour per week, enjoy a few minutes of introduction teaching, then collaborate on how to apply the principles to our specific challenges.

It’ll be fun, encouraging, enlightening, and effective.

Today’s Principle – Getting the Holdouts to Buy In
Have you ever proposed a change to your team and had one or two holdouts who try to quash your idea? You probably have some who you can count on to oppose every idea.

Meetings can be the bane of productivity. Too many meetings, ineffective meetings, and discouraging meetings interfere with good work. They can suck the morale out of your team. Especially if you have to struggle to get some of your team members to accept your ideas.

One very effective approach to this dilemma is to have a pre-meeting with your naysayer. Sit down with the person and solicit his or her help. Go over your plans, ask for their concerns, get them to help you overcome those concerns, and ask for their help convincing the others.

You can grease the way to consensus by having the meeting before the meeting.

The Big View of Guided Mastermind Groups
From my experience, mastermind groups can help transform a leader from frustrated to encouraged, from struggling to confident, from feeling alone to feeling supported.

The teaching, the reading, the thinking, and the collaboration brings a peace that can’t come from only one of these.

I can’t wait to start.

Here are a few more details:

  • The purpose of a mastermind group is to bring together like-minded people who are dedicated and motivated to making effective and lasting changes to their leadership.
    The mastermind meets an hour a week, once a week, for 10 weeks as we study the book “Leadership Gold” by John C. Maxwell.
  • The meetings are confidential and run professionally with a curriculum and complete respect for each participant’s privacy as well as complete respect for each participant’s time is exercised.
  • There is a high level of commitment on my part to deliver the best material to you in the allotted time with the utmost standards of professionalism as well as a level of commitment on your part to come to each meeting on time, prepared, and with a positive attitude.
  • As we move through each lesson, as a group we will bring together our ideas and opinions that will help shape and mold our understanding of the material in a way that is far superior to simply reading a book on your own. We will be combining all of our minds to becoming a master mind.
  • Your expectation of the 10-week study will be to increase your awareness and understanding on how to evolve into an effective leader – raising the leadership lid to a new level, with complete respect for each participant’s privacy as well as complete respect for each participant’s time.

What’s Next
Watch for my Monday e-mail. You will get all of the details, and the opportunity to register.

Read it if you want the transformational experience.

By the way, I can only fit twelve people. So I’ll be accepting the first twelve.

The make up of the group will be finalized next Friday.

Please forward this to anyone you think could use the help.

As always, your comments and questions are welcome at http:www.DavidDeFord.com/

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Experience Isn’t the Best Teacher

Thank you for your comments and questions.

On Monday I discussed how you don’t need to feel lonely in your leadership. By working WITH not ON your team members, you can enjoy assisting them to grow, improve, and move up. Isn’t that what real leaders do? Make it more about them than about you.

I also told you about the guided mastermind groups I’m excited to begin soon. For ten weeks you can collaborate with like-minded leaders. You can gain insights on meeting the challenges of leadership in the workplace and in volunteer organizations.

With us you can participate in a weekly call to discuss a couple of chapters of a bestselling leadership book, and collaborate in how to apply the principles with your team.

We’’ll have some fun and build each other while building our effectiveness and credibility.

As a member of the John Maxwell Team, and with more than four decades of leadership experience, I know I can help you enjoy your leadership more.

I’ve led and participated in nearly a dozen mastermind groups. We’ve built strong friendships, and still help each other.

Now for today’s leadership principle.

Experience Isn’t the Best Teacher
The natural way to grow leadership competency is to endure decades of managing, making mistakes, correcting them, adjusting approaches, and surviving.

Enduring this process makes building credibility so slow and painful. You don’t have to wait for it to happen naturally. You can intentionally grow. You can accelerate the growth.

Here are some ways to make that growth happen more purposefully and rapidly.

  1. Study from the world’s best leaders. If you limit your understanding of leadership to what you see your leaders do, you’re limiting your potential. Learn from the world’s best. Read books, listen to audios, take courses.
  2. Get a coach. Every superstar has a coach. Whether they play a sport professionally, play roles in movies, write books, or lead, the best have coaches. A coach has experience, resources, and can see your challenges from a different vista that you. Do it.
  3. Collaborate with others. Since Napoleon Hill introduced mastermind groups in his blockbuster bestseller, Think and Grow Rich, millions of people have help each other. The collective mind can uncover solutions that one person mired in the problem cannot.
  4. Go to professional conferences. Networking with other leaders in your industry can help you discover “best practice” approaches to your challenges.

Be intentional about your growth.

Questions
How often do you review your experiences and identify alternative responses to challenges? One way is to ponder, “What do I like best about how I handled that? Next time something like that happens, what could I do differently?” Over time you get better.

To whom do you look when you need a new approach to an old issue? You’ll find that those who don’t work in the same environment will help you come up with practical ideas you can’t identify alone or by conferring with others in your organization.

But what about…
But what about listening to some guy talk for an hour?
Actually, in our guided mastermind calls you’ll receive a just few minutes of teaching. Then the group will discuss the principles and identify how to apply them to their specific challenges. It’s a group effort.

What if I don’t like it?
If after two sessions you don’t feel it benefits you or it doesn’t fit your situation, you can receive a refund on the mastermind cost.

Next Friday
On Friday I’ll send you another update. I’ll help you get better buy-in from naysayers and foot-draggers. You’ll find ideas on how to get these tough folks to help you sell your ideas to the rest of the group. You’ll like it.

I hope you enjoy the enclosed quotes. They’re among my favorites.

If you have experience with mastermind groups, please comment.

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If It’s Lonely at the Top, You Aren’t Doing it Right

David DeFord here again.

If you commented on my questions from before, thank you.

From your comments and e-mails I’ve decided to create an opportunity for emerging and experienced leaders to collaborate together. The purpose will be to create an environment where leaders can help each other strengthen their effectiveness, job satisfaction, and credibility.

We’ll do it through a weekly group phone conversation (a guided mastermind group). We’ll each read a couple of chapters from a best selling leadership book, then on the call we’ll discuss the principles and help in applying them to our challenges.

We’ll also enjoy networking with like-minded leadership professionals.

Who Am I?
As a leadership professional in the workplace and in volunteer organizations, I’ve experienced many of the “hard knocks” of leadership. I’ve also studied leadership intensely for nearly a half century.

I’ve addressed more than a thousand audiences, helping them overcome the challenges in their leadership and positioning them to thrive in their tough roles.

I’ve authored 13 books on a variety of subjects, including goal achievement, leadership, and business networking.

I’m a certified trainer by Park University and Fred Pryor Seminars, and I’ve been accepted as a member of the John Maxwell Team.

In April I received this Toledo audience member comment, “The best leadership course I’ve taken in 41 years.”

If It’s Lonely at the Top, You’re Not Doing Something Right
John Maxwell says that if it’s lonely at the top, you’re not doing something right. I agree. Old-timey leaders keep their distance. They lead with a frown, and control their humble subjects. Most of their communication is one-directional—from the leader to underling. They grow their productivity by pushing and scolding. They convey, “I’m up here. You’re down there.”

Enlightened and effective leaders grow productivity by growing their team members. They lead their people to the top. Taking personal interest in their teams, they create a climate of greater initiative and self-starting. They communicate, “Let’s go to the top together.”

Titles don’t make leaders. Influence does. You can influence your team to WANT to improve, to grow, and to perform.

Questions
Do you regularly walk slowly through the halls observing, and making yourself available? If you do you make yourself accessible. You can see who is challenged, under-challenged, or over-challenged. You can see who helps whom. You can reduce the frustrating drop-in visits at the wrong time. Your team members know that you’ll be around, so they’ll take care of most of their business with you during your little trips around the workplace.

Do you have people with leadership potential? Do you groom, grow, train, and give leadership opportunities to them? If you do, they get motivated. They may rise to the occasion and join you in influencing the others. You can even attend training, conferences, and meetings without receiving phone calls and text messages every few minutes, because your leader trainees can handle many of the issues that arise in your absence.

If you are leading rather than managing, you’re not lonely at all.

This is one of the many leadership principles we’ll be discussing in our guided mastermind group.

But what if
Imagine spending one hour a week collaborating with other leaders helping each other grow.

But what if you feel you don’t have an hour to spend on growth each week?

We grow as leaders intentionally, or through the “School of Hard Knocks.” The hard knocks approach takes decades to develop competency and credibility. The intentional approach accelerates your growth. You can learn from the world’s best leaders and from your mastermind colleagues.

But what if my boss won’t pay for the opportunity?
I guess it all comes down to who owns your career–you or your organization. Successful leaders always seek out growth opportunities.

Watch for another e-mail from me on Tuesday. In it I’ll give you insights in how experience isn’t the best teacher.

I’d love to hear your comments.

If you have experience with mastermind groups, please comment.

Also, if you know an emerging leader who could use some help, please forward this to them.

Talk to you on Wednesday.

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The Notre Dame Center Who Could

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David Casstevens of the Dallas Morning News tells
a story about Frank Szymanski, a Notre Dame
center in the 1940s, who had been called as a
witness in a civil suit at South Bend.

“Are you on the Notre Dame football team this year?”
the judge asked.

“Yes, Your Honor.”

“What position?”

“Center, Your Honor.”

“How good a center?”

Szymanski squirmed in his seat, but said firmly: “Sir,
I’m the best center Notre Dame has ever had.”

Coach Frank Leahy, who was in the courtroom, was
surprised. Szymanski always had been modest and
unassuming. So when the proceedings were over, he
took Szymanski aside and asked why he had made
such a statement. Szymanski blushed.

“I hated to do it, Coach,” he said. “But, after all, I
was under oath.”

I observe two lessons from this story.

First, confidence spawns great achievement. We are
more likely to strive and succeed if we feel we can
do it.

This confidence does not come automatically—we
must develop it. This is especially true if we hear
continuous messages from others that we will fail.
In the face such negative messages, we must refuse
to allow them to thwart our efforts. Such external
must be quieted and our internal confidence must be
given our ear.

The second lesson I learn from Szymanski is that we
need not trumpet our confidence in our abilities to
make them effective. Frank felt he was the best. But
he displayed modesty. Yet, when pressed to tell the
whole truth, he firmly told it like he saw it.

When we are humble, yet confident we make
believers of those around us. They will turn their
doubt into trust. They will begin to believe it too.
They will stop sending you negative messages, but
will begin to express their confidence in you.

Confidence counts. I challenge you to work on yours.
I’m working on mine.

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Related Quotes

My mother taught me very early to believe I could
achieve any accomplishment I wanted to. The first
was to walk without braces. Wilma Rudolph

Confidence….thrives only on honesty, on honor, on
the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection
and on unselfish performance. Without them, it
cannot live. Franklin D. Roosevelt

It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task
which, more than anything else, will affect its
successful outcome. William James

In God’s eyes, nobody is a nobody. We should
never lose sight of what we may become and
who we are. Marvin J. Ashton

Keep away from people who try to belittle your
ambitions. Small people always do that, but the
really great make you feel that you, too, can
become great. Mark Twain

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Sincerely,

David DeFord

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